Anonymous asked: How to remain serene in chaos?
Hi sweetheart. :)
Remain serene in chaos? That’s the ultimate challenge, isn’t it? To get to that place where nothing can disturb our inner state… It reminds me of the iconic symbol of the Shiva Nataraj. Shiva is balancing on Maya, the lord of illusion, and dancing in a state of serenity in the midst of all the polar opposites inherent in this human existence.
How to get to that place where we aren’t caught in the drama of outer chaos? What is chaos? Without looking it up, it seems to me experientially to be unpredictable events coupled by a feeling of a loss of control and an experience of sensory overload (i.e., visual, auditory, energetic)?
Ultimately the key is to break down the illusion of separation, and not identify with emotional energy, even when it is greatly abundant in our surroundings. To realize that from the highest perspective nothing ‘wrong’ is happening, even though action may be called for. We like things to be predictable and comfortable as that reduces our stress because we aren’t having to adapt. To be serene we have to have the coping skills to deal with dissonance and unpredictability. Hopefully people have told us ‘no’, and hopefully we’ve been disappointed and experienced difficulties and have learned to pick ourselves up, calm ourselves down, persevere through challenge, and have a greater perspective to know that most things are little things, and that everything (no matter the wrapping) has the potential to offer us invaluable gifts.
Identify as the Witness of the chaos, love. Step back and watch, not from a place of apathy or non-engagement, but from a higher perspective of knowing that energetic spikes do pass, and that no matter the flavor of the chaos, human relationships and love are the glue. Look for the helpers and for the opportunity for connection. Watch the rest with wonder. Be there with the awareness that your heart has the greatest capacity to share an energy of serenity which can not only protect your state, but also help you be more effective in being a helper on a practical level, and can also spread a calmness that in itself is contagious. Experiment to see how your state affects others, and how witnessing changes your experience of ‘chaos’.
Knowing everything really is alright is BIG in being able to witness. Remembering that difficulties are temporary and not identifying with the emotional wave is integral. Being able to distinguish between things we can and can’t control and having the capacity both to let go and remain engaged on a human level is key.
It’s one step at a time, isn’t it? This isn’t easy work we are doing, but I can’t think of anything more important. I’m right there with you in this challenge. Coach yourself, love. You have the wisdom inside you.
Namaste, beautiful spirit. <3